All’s well that ends well?

Why this infatuation with endings? We can witness or experience the greatest life or love in the history of the world, yet if it ends badly it is somehow sad or tragic.

Nothing lasts. If there is bliss at the beginning, or in the middle, does tragedy at the end undo it?

Perhaps, indeed, “the best you can hope for is to die in your sleep.”  (Kenny Rogers, The Gambler)

3 Responses to “All’s well that ends well?”

  1. W.C. Varones Says:

    Far be it from me to turn down a happy ending, but in general you’re right.

    Happiness is a direction, not a destination.

  2. W.C. Varones Says:

    And by that I don’t mean the same thing as that Australian guy running around saying “Happiness is a journey.”

    His statement is normative: you should live life to its fullest in order to be happy.

    My statement is positive: you will be happy if things are improving in your life, rather than if you achieve a position or status that you once thought defined happiness. A penniless man who earns a few hundred dollars is happier than a millionaire who loses thousands.

  3. tb Says:

    Indeed. This is what I mean when I say that happiness is measured on the margin. It is often determined by what has most recently changed on the margins of your life, rather than what is at the center (and often more stable).

    Ideally, however, I do believe that happiness is not something that should be determined by what happens to you, either on the margins or at the center, but something you choose. I like Buddha’s sentiment, “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.” (Never mind that I regularly fail at implementing this.)

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